“Walk into almost any church and you will find one person who absorbs more criticism than anyone else, answers to expectations no one wrote down, and is not allowed to defend herself. She holds no title. She drew no salary for the role. She never stood for a vote.
Rethinking the Role of the Pastor’s Wife: A Review of Beth Allison Barr’s ‘Becoming the Pastor’s Wife’
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“The core of Barr’s complaint has merit. She notes that the ‘pastor’s job often includes the unpaid labor of his wife.’ Barr didn’t mind helping her husband; however, she says, “What I minded was feeling like my help was an expectation for his job” - TGC
Don’t Assume the Pastor’s Wife Will Lead the Women’s Ministry
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“The church must avoid assigning the pastor’s wife to ministry roles God may not have called her to, gifted her for, or directed her to do.” - Lifeway
Study: Being a Pastor’s Wife Is Bad for Friendships
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“Unlike the spouses of the older generation, the younger ones have a lot more to say about the stress related to their husbands’ jobs.” WRN